I don't want directions

Hey there -

Thanks for meeting up with me yesterday. The city sun was wonderful and the IPA oh so refreshing. I apologize if it looked like I was staring wistfully off into the crowd at times at the multitude of hot men. I was. Not to say that you're not hot, but, you don't have the certain, je ne sais quoi I refer to as Dark Sparkle. But I think I'm jumping ahead of myself.

I really enjoyed swapping dive stories with you. I really hope that my future partner is into diving. Hopefully enough to brave the cold water and not only dive in Cancun and Hawaii (have you ever worn a wetsuit?), but any diving is definitely a plus. I don't know if you really thought it was great that I was an avid diver. It was hard to get a read on what you were thinking most of the time. You were pretty dead pan and your body language was difficult to read and seemed closed off. As 'head geek' of your workplace, maybe this is reflective of your self esteem or personality, or maybe you just weren't that into me. But inside my head I was still willing to meet up with you again.

And then we inevitably turned the conversation to BM. It was unavoidable. You made it very clear that you were jaded, and so I tried to justify why I wasn't jaded and tried to even sound a little bit jaded, but then I remembered everything I love about BM and was tired of your jadedness. Just don't go. We don't need you clogging the channels.

Things got better after that. We talked about music, your work, where we'd lived before; it seemed to be a pretty fluid conversation. 

Then we left. We walked down the street toward your car and I wondered how it would end. At this point, I hadn't been thrilled or wowed by you, but I would have been up for meeting again. First dates always seem to be awkward. We roll up on your fancy shmancy car and you look at me and say, "Well, you know where to find me." I was kind of dumbstruck. I didn't know what to expect, but I certainly wasn't expecting anything so lackluster. I think I said, "Likewise." and then peaced out.

I don't actually know where to find you. I suppose I have your phone number and your account info to send you a message over the internet dating tubes, but I'm not the least bit interested in looking for you. What I do want is someone who is excited by me, that had a really good time with me and who drops me a line to remind me they had a good time, and wants to do it again. So regardless of the fact that I didn't want to take you right then and there (which has become a new requirement of mine), the 'you know where to find me' line was a total turn-off and deal-breaker. I hope you give someone else better directions.


Best of luck -
k